Sex Story: How to Craft a Great One

When it comes to sex, so much emphasis is placed on what people do. And for obvious reason. But what about what people say? Particularly for long-distance lovers, words become an important device for expressing themselves and connecting sexually. While men must focus on maintaining good penile health so that any visual materials they send aren’t alarming, and so that they will be able to perform once the lover is nearby, they should equally attend to their verbal abilities so they can please partners in the present with a tailored sex story.

Now, anyone can tell a sex story, but not everyone can tell a truly thrilling one. Below, men can find tips for telling a tale that stokes a lover’s passion. And, while this is certainly desired in the case of long-distance lovers, it can also be of benefit to those near and dear, spicing things up in the bedroom.

1. Learn what she likes (and doesn’t). Any man can tell a story about what he likes, and about what other women he’s been with have liked, but tailoring a story to a particular lover’s preferences and fantasies will make all the difference for her. So some explicit pre-conversation will be very helpful. Does she have any kinks or fetishes? What positions does she love? Does she like to be in control, to relinquish control or a combination of the two? What kind of foreplay really gets her going? Where are her hot spots, inside and out?

Once a man has the details, he can use them wisely throughout his story. He should be careful not to turn the story into a formulaic bullet-point list of her desires. Intersperse aspects of what she likes with what the story-teller craves – having made sure that she is comfortable with what he likes. Learning what she doesn’t like is just as important here.

2. Get into her pleasure. This is one of the most important general sex tips, not just a story-telling tip. But a story is going to be much better if a man not only “ticks the boxes” of a lady’s preferences, but actually gets into the idea of pleasuring her. This opens him up to more descriptive language, imagining her writhing, moaning, gasping and so on, and responding sexually himself to her reactions, describing how much he enjoys the pleasure his “character” is giving hers.

3. Interactive or monologue? Lovers can play around with different formats for story-telling. They may want to start off exchanging monologues about what they want to do and to have done to them. Then they can move to live chatting or speaking in which the primary story-teller is open to interjections and revisions from the other, or the two can take equal turns building the tale.

4. It’s all in the details. Telling a great sex story requires consistency and detail – imagine the way bodies are positioned throughout, and make reasonable transitions to other positions. Were her hands tied behind her back? If she’s going to use her hands on one’s member in the next scene, they need to be untied, for example. Breaking consistency can break the magic of a steamy tale.

5. Be realistic. The best sex story is realistic. If a man writes or says that the second he enters a woman, she climaxes, that’s not likely to titillate her because it’s not likely to happen in real life. Don’t write about crazy positions that her flexibility or one’s own strength would not facilitate. While it may seem like no big deal to portray ideals and wild fantasies, this could convey to her that a man wants or expects things she can’t deliver, and that’s not a sexy thought.

Many couples choose to supplement their verbal tales with risqué pictures, and that’s a great idea for people who trust one another. A good sex tip for guys in this vein is to be mindful to make their organs as presentable as possible so that their dick pics are appealing. Minding the condition of the skin is crucial here. A penis health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) with Shea butter and vitamin E will keep the skin moisturized, eliminated the common issues of dryness and flakiness. Plus, such a product will help minimize chafing, which is inevitable with all the cranking a man is likely to do while crafting and receiving hot sex stories.

Romance Parties – Attending and Hosting an Event

People are known to explore a lot of things, especially within a relationship, which is actually good and healthy. However, with the kind of lifestyles we have today, with all the hassles and pressures, there would be times when our relationships take a back seat. When this happens, we usually stop exploring, and do the same kinds of things every day, which is quite monotonous. Aside from this, whenever we find ample time to spend with our partners, we can become boring, since we lack the desire to explore and do new things on the bed. When this happens, the spark in your relationship would be lost. However, it is never too late to make adjustments to bring back that spark, and make your relationship with your spouse or special someone interesting and hot again. One way you can enhance your relationship is by attending romance parties.

Romance parties are similar to sex toy parties that are usually organized by persons who want to provide a good venue for people to check out new sex toy items. It is understandable that you may have some hesitations in attending these kinds of events. One of the reasons why you would probably feel that way is that it is something new. Aside from that, you may not know a lot about it yet, which is why you are afraid to check it out. People are known to be afraid of the unknown; therefore, to conquer your fears, you should face it head on and get to know it better by attending it.

It is best that you do not attend it alone. The reason is that, one of the objectives in holding such events is for couples to enhance their relationships. Therefore, you won’t be doing the hostess of the party or you much favor if you arrive at the party alone. If your girlfriend or spouse is hesitant in attending it, then you should respect his or her decision. However, before that, you should try to convince your spouse first. Let him or her understand that you are already adults, and one way that you can let go of the idea is to attend it. Let your spouse know, that you are too curious and eager in attending the event that the only way for you to be convinced that it is not something you really like is by attending it.

Aside from that, this is a good chance for you to spice up your love life and make you and your partner happier.

Keep in mind that if you and your spouse like the event so much, you can actually host a romance party of your own. There are actually a lot of benefits you can derive in hosting such an event, especially if you are able to get associated with a reliable adult party service provider company. With good company selection, you may get a lot of free items, discounts on certain items, gifts, and many more.

How Women Enjoy Eroticism Through Sex Stories

Most heterosexual women do not masturbate. They also do not find the concepts of eroticism or fantasy that appealing. So who reads all the feminine erotica out there?

Presumably some lesbian women masturbate and read erotica. In fact, female masturbation and clitoral stimulation are often associated with lesbianism. Perhaps this is why so much female erotica focuses on women’s bodies and sex between women.

No offence to lesbian or bisexual women but I am straight. I like male body parts, male psyche and sexual acts involving men. The woman is incidental. I enjoy homosexual erotica because I imagine myself on the receiving end of fellatio or anal sex, for example.

Female erotica often includes humiliation, domination and sadism. The titles of women’s sex stories abound with words such as: slave, chains, torture, bound, obey, submission. Do women associate sex with feeling ‘dirty’ or guilty about their sexual urges?

I like the wholehearted enthusiasm for sex that is portrayed in homosexual erotica. There is no virginal reluctance or demure disgust. People just enjoy the eroticism of sexual activity without anyone being forced into anything against their will (not always but mostly).

I admit that domination can be arousing. Given there is so much out there I have read my share. One book of sex stories involved a series of sadistic scenarios and frankly I was quite relieved when I eventually tired of the never-ending pain. My conclusion is that the concept of sadism may get me going but, for me at least, it does not cause orgasm.

It was a revelation to me that, unlike pornography, erotica is not intended solely for the purposes of causing sexual arousal. Perhaps this explains why I often struggle to find sex stories for women that can assist with orgasm. I have to wonder though… what else does anyone read this stuff for?

Shere Hite was phenomenal but sadly few women relate to her findings. This is because most women approach sex through their relationship with their lover. They have no concept of enjoying their own sexual arousal through clitoral stimulation. Equally they have never discovered the pleasures of sexual fantasies.

I read Hite when I was twenty and I understood that clitoral stimulation was critical to female orgasm from masturbation. However, clitoral stimulation never seemed to help with my sexual arousal during sex with my partner. The fact is that even during female masturbation, clitoral stimulation only leads to orgasm when it is combined with the use of sexual fantasies.

Men have a fairly natural transition from masturbation to sex because they use images of naked women for arousal. Women do not use images of naked men during masturbation so it is more difficult for them to transfer their orgasm techniques including their use of sexual fantasies to sex with a partner.

The Increasingly Blurred Boundary Between Mainstream Dating and Adult Dating

Throughout the past four or five years the distinction between adult dating and mainstream dating has become more and more blurred. Within the membership of swinger clubs and adult dating sites, it has probably always been possible to find many whose otherwise, sexually liberated tastes lean more towards enjoying one to one sex in privacy than in swinger or group sessions. This makes adult dating difficult to distinguish from mainstream casual dating.

Even more confusion arises when you start to consider that there also exist people within the adult dating community who are actually hoping to find long term friendship and even romance. From my own experiences of running swinger parties, I can think of many examples of observing and hearing from guests who are very happy to engage in nothing more than a bit of flirting and socialising with other similarly minded guests they have found at the party. Although such people might refer to themselves as swingers, they are to all intents and purposes, achieving the same outcomes as people attending mainstream dating.

There is however one essential difference that accounts for why some of these people sign up for adult dating and attend swinger parties instead of joining mainstream dating sites and attending non-adult dating events. It applies to couples but not to singles and it is of course that mainstream dating simply does not offer events or online dating facilities to couples. For this reason, couples who want to meet and party with other couples need to use swinger dating clubs rather than conventional dating clubs.

This difference does not exist for singles – except in the case of singles who want to meet couples – yet there are plenty of singles who attend adult parties who behave exactly as described above. For this type of single, attending singles dating parties offer an excellent alternative to swinger parties.

Most singles dating parties take place in upmarket bars and clubs. The events provide all sorts of fun dating activities which ensure that guests enjoy a fabulous night out in an atmosphere which guarantees that everyone will mingle.

The parties construct the perfect platform for meeting other singles who are looking for no-strings, casual dating. But they can also provide dates for those looking for longer term relationships, and romance. Just as with their adult-party counterparts, the parties are for some people nothing more – or less – than a chance to make friends and socialise. Singles parties are hosted by highly professional teams who know how to ensure that guests get exactly what they want from the experience. These friendly and experienced hosts greet you as soon as you arrive at the parties. They help you to relax and introduce you to the other guests.

Usually the next step is that you are taken to the bar where your host will describe all of the activities that are available. If you want them, there are several going on all evening at most singles parties but just like well run adult parties, the atmosphere is totally relaxed and no one is ever put under any pressure to join in with activities if they don’t want to. The sole aim of all activities is simply to encourage daters to mingle and meet one another.

Couples and Sexuality – Amp Up Your Sex Life This Summer by Cooling Down!

Would you like to beat the heat to enhance your sex life this summer? Extreme heat in the summer months can be a love repellant, especially when you feel hot and bothered or when the kids are up and around for more hours. This can create a challenge for you making love with your partner. Does this sound familiar? If so, read on for some solutions….

It’s a hot one this year! Keeping hydrated with clean water at all times is of the utmost importance for your health and your sex life, no matter what activities you do. Here are five fun and affordable ideas on keeping your love life hot while your body stays cool this summer:

Love tip 1: Pool party for two
Cool down in the water then heat things up! Float, relax, and break out the rafts and noodles; whatever floats your boat! Play some nice soft music while you dip. Taking a swim in your pool is a wonderful way to cool down and connect. Remember to flirt, hug, and smooch in the pool to amp things up. If you have a private pool, then skinny dipping can be very daring and arousing. Take your time- move slowly towards and away from each other playfully. Making love in the water is a fun way to share your passion while staying cool, especially at night when the temperature drops a bit. If you have kids, send them to Grandmas or your favorite sitter for the night!

Love tip 2: Romantic indoor picnic:
Buy or prepare some cool treats for the two of you- veggie platter, cold salads, fruits, cheeses or anything else chilled and easy that you enjoy eating together. Make some cold drinks such as spiked lemonade, Mojitos or Margaritas. Remember that alcohol dehydrates, so drink some extra water with your picnic dinner. Set up your picnic blanket in the middle of the room. Light some small candle jars around the room and set the mood. One or both of you can prepare the feast.

Feed each other slowly in-between kissing and teasing each other. Enjoy yourselves by candlelight. You can also enhance the mood with nature CDs such as ocean, forest, lake, or whatever you find most romantic. Tonight, make love in a different room, such as the living room on the picnic blanket. Focus on giving each other oral pleasure tonight, so each of you has a turn to lay back, relax, and stay cool while enjoying the bliss of orgasm!
Love tip 3: Romantic movie date:

This cool date can be at home or out. If you go out to the movies, find a very romantic movie out in the theaters. There is usually at least one each summer. Find a seat in the back of the theater. Hold hands! Steal a kiss or two. Whisper sweet something to each other about what you will do to each other later. Share some popcorn and chilled water while you enjoy the movie. Laugh, cry, and then go home to make love.

Love tip 4: Racy movie date:
If you are at home, rent or buy a racy movie. There is a company called Candida Royalle that offers some softer adult films with cheesy romantic story lines. One site you can get them at is Adam Eve. You can also find some harder core adult films on that site, depending on your tastes. You can have fun with these movies, giggle or reenact some of the scenes together. Try some different sexual positions tonight, such as woman on top facing away from the man. This allows for maximum air circulation and freedom to move in a way that pleases her. Don’t forget to reach around to stimulate her clitoris to send her into O-land! Remember to drink plenty of water, and top it off with ice cream or some fruit salad.

Love tip 5: Cool and Hot Shower Time:
Instead of taking a hot shower tonight, make the water lukewarm or on the cooler side. Bring some waterproof toys such as I rub my duckie or a waterproof vibrator. You can also use a movable shower head that has different speeds for some soapy fun! Spend time lathering each other up. Take your time and use a nice scented soap, such as mango, raspberry or lemon.

By the way, vibrators can be for him and her! Massage each others back and front areas, focusing first away from the genitals and then later to the genitals. To stimulate her, use circular motions with the vibrator around the labia and clitoris where most of the nerve endings are. Later, insert one or two fingers gently into her vaginal canal. She may be able to reach one, two, three or more orgasms this way in a row. To get him going, stimulate his penis with one hand and using the vibrator underneath his testicles. Ask for feedback to see how it feels. Some people like vibrators and some don’t. Experiment with different speeds. When you are done, rinse off and dry each other off and then fall asleep together. Turn on the ceiling fans for some extra breeze.

Naughty and Nice Bachelorette Party Ideas

Are you getting ready to throw a bachelorette party for a friend? Are you looking for some bachelorette party ideas? While anything goes when it comes to these parties, they seem to fall into two distinct categories: naughty and nice. The bachelorette party often has a reputation for being a wild night of debauchery, but in fact any idea you have for a bachelorette party can work. Here are a few suggestions that you might want to consider.

Lingerie party. This type of bachelorette party idea falls into the “naughty” category. There are many different companies that have consultants who will come to a home to throw a lingerie party. The consultants often have lingerie for the guests to try on and model for the other guests. This can be a great bachelorette party idea with the friends and guests purchasing items for the bride to be as a bachelorette party gift. If this is the intent with the party, check with the consultant to see how long it will take if the lingerie has to be ordered and delivered to the bride to be. It would stink to have a gift arrive the week after the wedding night! A search on Google can bring up the names of companies that have at home consultants to help you with your lingerie party bachelorette theme. One that I found was Pampered Passions.

Adult novelty party. This is another bachelorette party idea that you would classify as naughty. This is a wicked party where guests get to look at catalogs for adult toys and sex toys. If you have a bride who is open minded and in touch with her sexuality, this bachelorette party idea might be a winner. Again, an online search will bring back the names of companies who specialize in this type of party. Some of these companies include Passion Parties and Tickle Your Fancy.

Male strippers. Why should men be the only ones allowed to enjoy the beauty of the opposite sex? More and more ladies are enjoying watching male strip shows. This could be the perfect bachelorette party idea for your bride. If you live in a larger metropolitan area you might have an easier time finding a bar or club where you can enjoy the male strip shows. If this is not an option for you, you can try to hire a private stripper for your home party.

Night on the town. Depending on how wild things get, you can say this bachelorette party idea could be either naughty or nice. Before going out to party be sure to designate a driver for the evening, or hire a limo or party bus if funds allow. You can find a nice corner bar and have a few drinks with friends, or you can go from club to club enjoying the “last” night of freedom for the bride to be!

And now for some of the “nice” party ideas.

Dinner with family and friends. You can gather those ladies closest to the bride to be and enjoy a nice meal together for this bachelorette party idea. If you have the financial resources, why not treat yourselves to a nice dinner at a fancy restaurant? If the bride to be isn’t that fancy, perhaps a pot luck supper at someone’s home will be perfect. You can play some bachelorette party games together while enjoying the company of family and friends.

Day at the spa. Who doesn’t love to be pampered – especially the bride to be? This is great for a few close friends of the bride to be and would give her the chance to get in some last minute spa treatments before the big day. Planning a wedding is stressful – why not treat your friend to a full body massage to help her relax in preparation for her wedding day!

Poker night. Men aren’t the only ones who enjoy a good card game. Gather up a few friends and have a poker night (or Gin Rummy night, or Euchre night, or even a Go Fish night if these are the games you like to play). Have some finger foods ready, because who wants to fuss with a knife and a fork when there are games to be played!

The beauty of the bachelorette party is that there is no right way or wrong way to have one. You can be as creative as you like when it comes to deciding what idea works best for your bride to be. It can be as wild or as tame as you like, and if the bride to be is willing, it can be as naughty or as nice as you like too!

Telling Sex Stories Can Lead to a Great Orgasm – Secrets to Dirty Talk Sex

Telling sexy stories and talking dirty in bed can lead to having better intercourse and ultimately a great orgasm. Using dirty talk is really a form of foreplay and by using it you can stimulate you partner and turn them on. Many people get into a routine and this can become boring and lead to a non exciting love life. You need to spice it up and telling each other sexy stories can be one great options to put you in the mood.

The first thing that you want to do is to find out what fantasies the other one has this way you can cater the story around that interest. Do not be afraid to try this new technique on each other because you need to try new things always to keep your love life fresh and interesting. Women like it when you talk softly in there ear so you may want to tell your sex story there so that they can fell you close to them.

It is important that when you are talking dirty that you also caress and message each other so that you can hear and feel the pleasure. Remember that when a woman is going to have an orgasm that it is very important that you have prolonged foreplay because they take longer than a man to climax. Never rush through your love making or foreplay because you need to enjoy this time and to get more intimate.

It is always best that when you are trying something new that you have all the information you can so that you can have a successful time with your partner in bed.

 

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Sex Stories – Tips For a Great Swinging Couples Party

You’re no stranger to block parties and birthdays, but now you’re looking to throw a party with a little more of an adult theme? For wild couples, swing parties can be fun for an anniversary or special birthday, or they can be great events for you to organize regularly. So what do you have to consider? As in all sex stories, what’s important are the fundamentals:

Where to Have your Party

Your own home is your best bet for your party as a new host. You might be tempted to hold a party outside in warm weather- lots of space, beautiful scenery and easy cleanup. But this isn’t wise unless you live VERY far away from your neighbors.
You may think a high fence or tall trees provide privacy, but even if your neighbors can’t see you, they can still hear you! This can result in a complaint and an unfortunate police visit.
Attempts to hide your party attendees’ sounds with loud music won’t work. Those bright colorful lights you’ll see aren’t festive decorations, but police cars out front.
All this considered, it’s best to keep the action inside when you start out. If you’re a real beginner, you’ll also want to attend a few swing parties before trying to host your own.
Sometimes people consider hosting as an easy way to make some money, but like most plans for fast money, it’s not as simple as it looks. It’s important to plan your parties well, and you’re not hosting a spectator sport. In order to get along with your guests and have a good party, you should be into swinging yourself.

The Guest List

In the beginning you should invite people you know from other swingers’ parties and groups. You’ll want to get more comfortable with hosting and more familiar with swinging before you let strangers show up.
Saturday night’s alright for swinging- people tend to be too tired to get into it at the end of the week on Friday. It’s a good idea to start promoting your party about a month in advance, and encourage people to bring people they actually know, but not friends of friends.
Make this rule very clear: couples only!! Single men often try to crash to take advantage of what they imagine is just one big orgy- that’s not what this is about. Single men or women can cause jealousies and complications. Limiting your guest list to couples allows everyone to relax and enjoy themselves.

What to Serve your Guests

It’s illegal to sell alcohol without a liquor license so you can’t charge for alcohol or you could be arrested. Instead, charge a fee per couple to attend and give away the food and liquor. $30 per couple is a standard charge, or you can charge a smaller fee and make it BYOB.
One of the first things you should establish is how many couples you can accommodate, depending on space, your comfort, and the energy you want your party to have. You can overbook by 50% because a lot of people may not show up.
Require that people RSVP by e-mail. This way, you’ll have the e-mails of all the people who are attending so you can send them the time, date and location of the party, along with rules and any fun details of a theme if you’re having one (these are common at swing parties.)

Speaking of Rules…

You should say up front whether you’ll allow smoking and any kind of cameras/documentation. These can make some guests uncomfortable, so they should know what they’re getting into.
Make it clear that the party is supposed to be fun and safe for everyone, and you won’t tolerate drunkenness or fighting.
Also, all activities will be completely consensual and no one will have to participate in anything they aren’t comfortable with.

Use these simple guidelines and you’ll have your guests coming again and again!

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Sex Stories – Could it Be the Climax to a Great Night’s Sleep?

Did you know that sex stories may be the answer to getting a good night’s sleep? Yup, that’s right sex stories. Sounds a heck of a lot better than Valium or elephant sized doses of sleepy time tea, doesn’t it? Sex has been proven to be a great sleep inducer and spicing up your sex life with sex stories can be a big help in getting the sleep you need. There is no argument that the restorative powers of sleep are needed for a healthy and happy lifestyle. Sex stories can help add to your sex life making the sex better as well as your sleep.

Not sleeping can be dangerous to your health, but using sex stories as a sex aid can help stem off the negative stimuli that causes us not to be able to sleep. Studies have shown that sleep deprivation can bring on serious disease such as dementia and Parkinson’s disease. Not to mention how it can generally mess up other things in your life like your work, family life relationships, etc. The key is to wind your body and brain down just before bed and sex is the perfect way to do that. Using sex stories can put your in the mood to have sex by exciting your mind and helping to reach a better and more satisfying orgasm. That is what puts you to sleep, the release.

Some may argue that reading sex stories would get your brain too excited and may not be the best way to get a good night’s slumber. Not true. As mentioned before, it’s the release in sex that brings the mind and body down into a restful satisfied state more conducive to deep sleep. Excitement before bed such as action movies or going for a jog or other exercise have negative effects on your sleep because the endorphin build up stimulates your brain without the benefit of release. This is what causes your brain to work overtime and diminishes your ability to fall asleep.

Sex stories definitely have a nice dual effect don’t they? Spicing up your sex life while enjoying a restful night’s sleep should sound pretty good to just about anyone! Sleep is so important to your health, so is sex, so this sleep remedy is a real winner! Sure is a lot more attractive than trips to the doctor, pharmacy or the health food store.

How to Tell Your Partner You Want to Watch Adult Movies During Sex

If you just started a new relationship or have been married for twenty years, when it comes to talking with your lover about the desire to watch adult movies during sex, is never easy. However, in reality you’ll never know how they will answer unless you ask. Instead of hiding it like it’s a dirty little secret, the open communication can improve your sex life and improve other aspects of your relationship.

It’s normal to be worried about your lover’s reaction, use a third-party indirect question such as: “Bill told me over coffee that Linda and him watch channel X while making love. Have you ever imagined watching adult movies during sex? Apparently they really like it.”

The preframe for this conversation is that watching adult movies is a healthy medium. Bill and Linda improved their sex life through stimulating images and auditory enhancers of groans and dirty talk. By asking her if she likes it before you even suggest you’re into it, will loosen up the pressure on you and give you an answer without facing judgement.

If your lover says, “sure let’s check some out,” keep in mind while the movie is rolling to stare at her often. Tell her she is sexier than all the women. Repeat some of the dirty lines aloud as if she were one of porn stars. Guide your lover into the positions. Always stay in the moment instead of becoming fixated on the screen. Afterwards, ask her what else she wants to try. Watching adult movies with your lover is an excellent gateway to more kinky arts.